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Some people think that financial disparity affects friendship. What do you think? The following article is discussing this issue. Read it carefully and write your response in about 300 words, in which you should: 1. summarize briefly the main opinion of the article; 2. give your comment. Marks will be awarded for content relevance, content sufficiency, organization and language quality. Failure to follow the above instructions may result in a loss of marks. When people with money are friends with people of modest means the disparities don’t typically end with the bank accounts. One person in the friendship often feels less comfortable than the other, and it tends to be the one with less money—the friend who can’t afford to join the group at the restaurant or go on the weekend trip, the one whose share may be paid for by the others. “It doesn’t disturb the rich ones to pay,” says Horst Heidbrink, a psychology lecturer at the distance learning University of Hagen. “The rich person thinks they’re being caring. But the poorer person feels under pressure to be particularly nice.” But a lack of balance puts pressure on many friendships. Aristotelian ethics would suggest dealing with the imbalance with increased devotion by the friend with less. Friendship expert Horst Heidbrink says he wouldn’t recommend this, but his research has shown him that the give and take between friends has to be balanced. Friendships between rich and poor people are not as unusual as one might think. In a 2014 study by the Bremen-based Allensbach Institute, 1,624 people of different ages were asked about their friendships. Forty-four percent of respondents said they had friends who were considerably better off than they were. And 41% said they were friends with people who were considerably less well off than they were. And yet that old saying to the effect that money issues can put an end to friendship still holds for many. According to the study, friends helped each other out with moving house and renovation work, offered an ear when needed and doled out advice. But only 10% ever accepted significant loans from their richer friends. “Many people believe that borrowing money would weigh the friendship down,” Heidbrink says. “Most people would rather go to their parents because family relationships don’t depend on symmetry as much as friendships do.” Nevertheless, he says, “A good friendship can also withstand a credit.” Although friendships between men and women are vulnerable because they are defined by different activities. With their male friends, men play sports, for example, while women and their girlfriends often just talk when they get together. “That’s where it gets harder to leave out financial situations, and there’s more comparing,” says Heidbrink. On the other hand, when two guys play soccer together, it’s not an issue if one returns to a villa and the other to a low-rent apartment. “What counts is trust,” Heidbrink says. When trust isn’t justified—when a friend refuses to help or betrays confidences—then friendships fall apart. They don’t fall apart because one person has a lot of money in the bank and the other doesn’t. If the less well-off don’t suffer from jealousy or envy, and the better-off don’t take it too much to heart if their best friend can’t join them on that spa trip, there’s a good chance of a successful friendship.
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Money Don’t Make True Friends Go The passage above believes that financial disparity, to a certain extent, affects friendship and the less well-off person would feel under pressure. In a friendship, the one with less money can’t afford a group outing or a weekend trip, and in the long run, he or she may feel estranged from their richer friends. However, as mentioned by the friendship expert Heidbrink in the passage, a long lasting friendship depends crucially on trust, rather than financial equality.
Personally, I share the same idea with Heidbrink that mutual trust and understanding are indispensable for a successful friendship. There is no denying that economic disparity does make the life qualities different, but whether it can greatly affect a relationship deserves more discussion. It is not responsible at all to say that there can be a sense of insecurity and worthlessness if you associate with someone making more money, and consequently the friendship between the two will be unavoidably undermined. We can find around us a great number of people are in their own friendships with at least one richer people and they are pretty happy to be together. Friendship is not only a matter of money, but compromise, patience, and support. Money is something one can get through hard work, but successful friendship needs cultivation, great care and mutual understanding and one can get overwhelming support from a friend. If a friendship is truly sincere and supportive, he would sure to be considerate and would like to make necessary compromises. Both parties in a friendship should reflect their feelings about money and material things when they have some money-spurred differences. For example, if one can overcome his or her jealousy over a friend’s wealth and the newly affluent people feel no guilty about the changes and they would like to help their less wealthy friends, then the friendship between them can sure be everlasting.
Despite the little effects caused by financial disparity, a successful friendship is mainly determined by honesty and trust.
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【审题构思】
本文是一篇评论,文章针对经济差距对友谊的影响展开论述。前三段通过数据说明经济差距的确会影响友谊,之后举例论证有些友谊是不受经济差距影响的,最后明确指出“信任”才是友谊得以稳固的关键。根据题目的要求,考生可采取以下的布局:
第一段:引出话题,总结两方观点。
第二段:并提出自己的见解,即同意文章的论点,并就此展开论述。指出友谊需要包容、妥协、相互支持,真正的友谊能够把克服经济差距造成的经济紧张。
第三段:总结全文,重申真正的友谊是建立在相互信任的基础上的。