Five ways to make conversation with anyone Conversations are links,which means when you have a conversation with a new person a link gets formed and every conversation you have after that moment will strengthen the link.You meet new people every day:the g
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Five ways to make conversation with anyone Conversations are links,which means when you have a conversation with a new person a link gets formed and every conversation you have after that moment will strengthen the link.You meet new people every day:the grocery worker,the cab driver,new people at work or the security guard at the door.Simply starting a conversation with them will form a link.Here are five simple ways that you can make the first move and start a conversation with strangers.41.____________Suppose you are in a room with someone you don’t know and something within you says“I want to talk with this person”—this is something the mostly happens with all of us.You wanted to say something—the first word—but it just won’t come out.It feels like it is stuck somewhere,I know the feeling and here is my advice just get it out.Just think:that is the worst that could happen?They won’t talk with you?Well,they are not talking with you now!I truly believe that once you get that first word out everything else will just flow.So keep it simple:“Hi”,“Hey”or“Hello”—do the best you can to gather all of the enthusiasm and energy you can,put on a big smile and say“Hi”。42.____________It’s a problem all of us face:you have limited time with the person that you want to talk with and you want to make this talk memorable.Honestly,if we got stuck in the rut of“hi”,“hello”,“how are you?”and“what’s going on?”you will fail to give the initial jolt to the conversation that’s can make it so memorable.So don’t be afraid to ask more personal questions.Trust me,you’ll be surprised to see how much people are willing to share if you just ask.43.____________When you meet a person for the first time,make an effort to find the things which you and that person have in common so that you can build the conversation from that point.When you start conversation from there and then move outwards,you’ll find all of a sudden that the conversation becomes a lot easier.44.____________Imagine you are pouring your heart out to someone and they are just busy on their phone,and if you ask for their attention you get the response“I can multitask”.So when someone tries to communicate with you,just be in that communication wholeheartedly.Make eye contact,you can feel the conversation.45.____________You all came into a conversation where you first met the person,but after some time you may have met again and have forgotten their name.Isn’t that awkward!So remember the little details of the people you met or you talked with;perhaps the places they have been to the place they want to go,the things they like,the thing the hate—whatever you talk about.When you remember such thing you can automatically become investor in their wellbeing.So the feel a responsibility to you to keep that relationship going.That’s it.Five amazing ways that you can make conversation with almost anyone.Every person is a really good book to read,or to have a conversation with!41选？
A.Just say it
B.Be present
C.Pay a unique compliment
D.Name,places,things
E.Find the“me too”s
F.Skip the small talk
G.Ask for an opinion
B.Be present
C.Pay a unique compliment
D.Name,places,things
E.Find the“me too”s
F.Skip the small talk
G.Ask for an opinion
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第1题：
听力原文：W: Oh, no. It's five o'clock already, and I haven't finished my homework.
M: Don't worry. That clock is fifteen minutes fast. You still have time to do it.
When does this conversation take place?
A．At 5:00.
B．At 5:15.
C．At 4:45.
D．At 4:15.
正确答案：C
解析：女士看了钟说“已经五点了”，然后男士说这表快15分钟，说明现在是4:45。 -
第2题：
Which of the following statements are examples of the nonverbal behavior. of the job interview?
A.In what style. you choose to speak (e.g. begin with a story or a question) in the conversation.
B.In what way you behave (e.g. behave appropriately or not) in the conversation.
C.In what manner you speak (e.g. speak fast, short or aloud) in the conversation.
D.What body language you use (e.g. speak with or without eye contact) in the conversation.
参考答案：B、C、D
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第3题：
You should try to ____conversation with the person on your right or left, but you should not try to talk to someone who is a long way from you.
A: get into
B: get out of
C: get off
D: get on with
参考答案：A
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第4题：
in britain, if you do not look at the person in a conversation, it could imply a number of things, including fear, ______, uneasiness, guilt or indifference.A、attention
B、happiness
C、attempt
D、contempt
参考答案：D
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第5题：
The ability in speaking English and understanding English is very important here. Have you learned English conversation?
正确答案：
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第6题：
You will have a great conversation and maybe even get a date or make a new friend.A:talk
B:speech
C:debate
D:discussion答案：A解析：conversation（谈话）与talk意思相近。speech“演讲”,debate"辩论”,discussion“讨论”。 -
第7题：
根据下面资料，回答
"Hi there. How′ s it going?"
"Oh, fine. Fine. How about this weather, huh?"
"Well, I guess we can always use the rain."
What is that? This story? Oh, just a little look at small talk. You know, those seemingly meaningless conversations you have dozens of times a day. Maybe you′re waiting for the elevator, or in a line at the bank. It all seems pretty trivial. Idle chatter about traffic doesn′t do much more than fill the air with empty words that are quickly forgotten. But you should know that small talk actually has a big place in our lives.
Pat Oliver, assistant professor on arts, says that, "Left unchecked, small talk can be an invasion. It′ s so powerful. It does something to you." "Every morning after spending an hour and a half on the freeway I start the day with small talk with my secretary," Oliver says, "If I don′t make small connection with another person, I can′ t work."
What causes it? As a rule, you′re either trying to force something into your life, or you′re using conversation as an invisible force field to keep them out. You can be wanting to connect with another person, and small talk is your introduction to more meaning conversation. The way people use small talk is usually determined by where they happen to beat the time.
Take the elevator, for instance. Now there′ s prime territory. Nobody knows anyone and there′ s no reason to start a conversation, but invariably, someone does. "Making conversation in such peaceful social settings," according to Oliver, "can confirm your territory. It′s a way of feeling liked and accepted."
The topics of small talk don′t matter. In fact, you don′t want anything more taxing than the weather or the traffic. It′ s non-threatening talk in a threatening situation. However, the rules change quickly when you′re with lots of people doing lots of talking.
Let′ s say you′ re at a party. Now it′ s time to use small talk as a way of making others feel more comfortable around you, so don′ t look silly standing by the food table alone all night.
According to the author, at a big party, small talk is used with the purpose of_____________.A.making both others and yourself feel at ease
B.excluding those you don't like from joining you
C.keeping your voice low so only your friends can hear you
D.comforting those who feel lonely答案：A解析：细节题。由最后一段“Now it’s time to use small talk as away of making others feel more comfortable around you”可知，A项“使他人和自己都感到轻松”与此相符，故选A。 -
第8题：
根据下列内容，回答211-215题。
"Hi there. How's it going? "
"Oh, fine. Fine. How about this weather, huh? "
"Well, I guess we can alway use the rain."
What is that?This story?Oh, just a little look at small talk. You know, those seeminglymeaningless conversations you have dozens of times a day. Maybe you're waiting for the elevator,or in a line at the bank. It all seems pretty trivial. Idle chatter about traffic doesn't do much morethan fill the air with empty words that are quickly forgotten. But you should know that small talkactually has a big place in our lives.
Pat Oliver, assistant professor on arts, says that, "Left unchecked, small talk can be aninvasion. It's so powerful. It does something to you."" Every morning after spending an hour and ahalf on the freeway I start the day with small talk with my secretary, "Oliver says, "If I don't makesmall connection with another person, I can't work."
What causes it?As a rule, you're either trying to force something into your life, or you'reusing conversation as an invisible force field to keep them out. You can be wanting to connect withanother person, and small talk is your introduction to more meaning conversation. The way peopleuse small talk is usually determined by where they happen to be at the time.
Take the elevator, for instance. Now there's prime territory. Nobody knows anyone and there'sno reason to start a conversation, but invariably, someone does."Making conversation in suchpeaceful social settings," according to Oliver,"can confirm your territory. It's a way of feelingliked and accepted."
The topics of small talk don't matter. In fact, you don't want anything more taxing than theweather or the traffic. It's non-threatening talk in a threatening situation. However, the ruleschange quickly when you're with lots of people doing lots of talking.
Let's say you're at a party. Now it's time to use small talk as a way of making others feelmore comfortable around you, so don't look silly standing by the food table alone all night.
"Small talk", as interpreted by the author,__________.A.has no real function in communication at all
B.is usually meaningless and therefore useless
C.is not as idle as it may seem to be
D.is restricted to certain topics only答案：C解析：通读全篇，可知作者的意图在于说明琐谈看上去没什么意义，但是却在生活中起着很大的作用。例如将交谈双方弓l入一些更重要的谈话，或是打破冷场的局面。故C项正确。 -
第9题：
二、考题解析
【教案】
Teaching aims:
Knowledge aim:
Students can master the intonation of showing their attitudes.
Ability aim:
After this lesson, students can practice their listening and speaking ability through group work.
Emotional aim:
Students are able to love learning English after this lesson.
Key and difficult point:
Key Point: master the intonation of showing their attitudes.
Difficult Point: cultivate the interest of students’ learning English.
Teaching procedures:
Step 1: Warming-up
1. Greetings.
2. Play a video about a person who is shopping at a store and has a conversation with the shop assistant. And ask students to answer some questions: Does this customer want to buy the clothes? Give the reason
Step 2: Presentation
1.Ask students to listen the conversation carefully and the teacher reads the conversation that today needs to learn and ask students:
Which part does the male show the interest? Give the reason
And which part does the male show the uninterested? Give the reason
2.Then present the conversation on the PPT, and ask students to listen to the conversation again, pay attention to the intonation of male’s answers. And ask students to answer some questions:
When male shows the interest to the content of female’s saying, what kind of intonation does he use? Uninterested, what’s intonation?
3. Then lead the students to conclude the rules of intonations of showing their attitudes. At the same time, write the male’s words on the blackboard with the help of symbols of rising tone and falling tone.
Step 3: Practice
1.Ask students to read this conversation after the tape.
2.Role-play: Ask students to practice this conversation with their partner and after 5 minutes, invite some students to read this conversation for all the students.
3. Dubbing: Ask students to look at a short video about a conversation between a Chinese student and another foreign student. But this video only has the frames, but doesn’t have the sound, which needs students to finish dubbing with their deskmates in given 10 minutes. Then invite several students to show their conversation with all the students.
Step4: Production
Make stories: Ask students to use the knowledge of intonation to make a short story according to the chart. Before this, divide the students into several groups with different persons and ask the representatives to get their topic through the way of random draw.
1.What’s the teaching aims of this lesson?
2. What’s your major? Why do you want to be an English teacher?答案：解析：1.
There are three aims: knowledge aim,ability aim and emotional aim.
Knowledge aim:
Students can master the intonation of showing their attitudes.
Ability aim:
After this lesson, students can practice their listening and speaking ability through group work.
Emotional aim:
Students are able to love learning English after this lesson.
2.
My major is medicine. But I like English. And my biggest hobby is learning and speaking English. In my daily life, I like to go abroad to travel and reading English novels. I think English is more useful and attracting for me than my major, medicine. -
第10题：
问答题Practice 2 Many matters, however, are less easily brought to the test of experience. If, like most of mankind, you have strong convictions on many such matters, there are ways in which you can make yourself aware of your own prejudices. If an opinion contrary to your own makes you angry, that is a sign that you subconsciously are aware of having no good reason for thinking as you do. If someone maintains that two and two are five, or that Iceland is on the equator you feel pity rather than anger, unless you know so little of arithmetic or geography that his opinion shakes your own contrary conviction. The most savage controversies are those about matters as to which there is no good evidence either way. So whenever you find yourself getting angry about difference of opinion, be on your guard; you will probably find, on examination that your belief is going beyond what the evidence justifies. For those who have enough psychological imagination, it is a good plan to imagine an argument with a person having a different opinion. This has one advantage, and only one, as compared with actual conversation with opponents: this one advantage is that the method is not subject to the same limitations of time and space. Mahatma Gandhi considered it unfortunate to have railways and steamboats and machinery; he would have liked to undo the whole of the industrial revolution. You may never have an opportunity of actually meeting anyone who holds his opinion, because in Western countries most people take the advantage of modern technology for granted. But if you want to make sure that you are right in agreeing with the prevailing opinion, you will find it a good plan to test the arguments that occur to you by considering what Gandhi might have said in refutation of them. I have sometimes been led actually to change my mind as a result of this kind of imaginary dialogue. Furthermore, I have frequently found myself growing more agreeable through realizing the possible reasonableness of a hypothetical opponent.正确答案： 参考译文
然而,很多问题用经验来检验会比较困难。即使你像大多数人那样,在此类事情上执迷不悟,还是有方法让你意识到自己的偏见。如果与你相左的观点激怒了你,这恰恰说明了你已经下意识地认识到自己还没法给自己的想法以合适的理由。如果有人坚称二加二等于五,或者冰岛位于赤道,你更多的是感到同情而非愤怒,除非你对算术或地理几无所知,以致他的观点动摇了你的立场。最残酷的争论是,双方都无法给自己的观点提出合理的证据。所以无论发现自己对不同的意见有多么气恼,一定要保持警惕;你很有可能会发现,经过检验,你的信念并无足够的依据。
对那些想象力丰富的人,想象着同与自己观点相异的人交锋是项不错的计划。与实际的正面交锋相比,这种方式有一个——可以说是惟一的——好处:它无需受时间与空间的限制。圣人甘地认为拥有铁路、轮船和机器是不幸的,他宁愿整个工业革命未曾发生过。你可能永远也不会遇到一个跟他持有相同观点的人,因为在西方国家,绝大部分人都认为现代科技具有诸多好处。但如果你想证实你赞同时下盛行的观点,这一行为是正确的,你可以通过考虑甘地可能给出的拒绝高科技的理由来检验你所坚持的论断,这将是个十分好的方案。我有时确实通过这种想象式的对话改变了原来的观点。此外,通过认识到假想论敌的观点可能存有的合理性,我经常发现自己已变得越来越容易相处。解析： 暂无解析 -
第11题：
单选题CONVERSION 2 Questions l to 5 are based on an conversation. At the end of the conversation you will be given 10 seconds to answer each of the following five questions. Now listen to the conversation. According to the conversation, which of the following statements is CORRECT?ARoger prefers to live in town.
BJulia prefers to live in a village.
CRoger prefers to live with familiar neighbors.
DJulia prefers to travel back and forth to London.
正确答案： C解析： 访谈中，当女士提到为何不搬到Colchester时，男士回答到，你想被困于上千座房子中，被包围在上千位陌生的邻居当中吗？由此可以推断出，男士更喜欢与熟悉的人住在一起。故选项C为正确答案。听录音时应注意双方的语气。 -
第12题：
填空题What do you usually say to your new friend at the end of the conversation?We tell him we are happy to ____ him.正确答案： have met解析：
听清提问后，再联系所给信息，可推知是告别时要说的套话，故此处应填have met。做此题时还要注意时态。
【录音原文】
When you talk with new friends, usually there are three parts in the conversation. The first part is greeting. In this part you and your new friend will greet each other and tell each other your names or ex-change name cards. The second part is the conversation itself. Sometimes, the conversation is just a small talk, that is, you talk about unimportant matters, such as the weather, sports, entertainments and other interesting things. But it’s not the time for you to ask about private or unpleasant things. Sometimes the conversation is about important matters like business affairs. The third part of the conversation is the leave taking part. In this part, you tell your new friend that you are happy to have met him or her and then the conversation comes to the end.
Q11: How many parts does a conversation with a new friend usually consist of?
Q12: What do you do in the first part of the conversation?
Q13: What is mentioned as an example of important matters?
Q14: What is usually avoided in the conversation?
Q15: What do you usually say to your new friend at the end of the conversation? -
第13题：
Section A
Directions: In this section, you will hear 8 short conversations and 2 long conversations. At the end of each conversation, one or more questions will be asked about what was said. Both the conversation and the questions will be spoken only once. After each question there will be a pause. During the pause, you must read the four choices marked A, B, C and D, and decide which is the best answer.
听力原文：M: Let me clean your windshield and check your water and you will be all set. They look so dirty and it's dangerous for you to drive the car.
W: Oh, thank you. How much of them?
Q: Where does this conversation take place?
(12)
A．At a hamburger shop.
B．At a parking lot.
C．At a laundry.
D．At a gas station.
正确答案：D
解析：场景推断题。对话中男士说清理一下挡风玻璃和检查一下水箱就一切妥当了，对话中关键词windshield和water表明这段对话可能发生在加油站。故答案为D。 -
第14题：
In Britain, if you do not look at the person in a conversation, it could imply a number of things, including fear,______，uneasiness, guilt or indifference.
A. attention
B. contempt
C. attempt
D. happiness
参考答案B
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第15题：
This letter is _____ our telephone conversation this morning.
A、confirmed
B、to confirm
C、to have confirmed
D、to be confirmed
正确答案:B
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第16题：
You would be using mainly English in this job. Can you manage English conversation?
正确答案：
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第17题：
You will have a great conversation and maybe even get a date or make a new friend.A: talk
B: speech
C: debate
D: discussion答案：A解析：句意为：你会有一个愉快的谈话，甚至可能得到一次约会的机会或交到一个新朋友。 conversation意为“谈话”，与talk意思相近。speech意为“演讲”;debate意为“辩论”;dis- cussion意为“讨论”。 -
第18题：
根据下面资料，回答
"Hi there. How′ s it going?"
"Oh, fine. Fine. How about this weather, huh?"
"Well, I guess we can always use the rain."
What is that? This story? Oh, just a little look at small talk. You know, those seemingly meaningless conversations you have dozens of times a day. Maybe you′re waiting for the elevator, or in a line at the bank. It all seems pretty trivial. Idle chatter about traffic doesn′t do much more than fill the air with empty words that are quickly forgotten. But you should know that small talk actually has a big place in our lives.
Pat Oliver, assistant professor on arts, says that, "Left unchecked, small talk can be an invasion. It′ s so powerful. It does something to you." "Every morning after spending an hour and a half on the freeway I start the day with small talk with my secretary," Oliver says, "If I don′t make small connection with another person, I can′ t work."
What causes it? As a rule, you′re either trying to force something into your life, or you′re using conversation as an invisible force field to keep them out. You can be wanting to connect with another person, and small talk is your introduction to more meaning conversation. The way people use small talk is usually determined by where they happen to beat the time.
Take the elevator, for instance. Now there′ s prime territory. Nobody knows anyone and there′ s no reason to start a conversation, but invariably, someone does. "Making conversation in such peaceful social settings," according to Oliver, "can confirm your territory. It′s a way of feeling liked and accepted."
The topics of small talk don′t matter. In fact, you don′t want anything more taxing than the weather or the traffic. It′ s non-threatening talk in a threatening situation. However, the rules change quickly when you′re with lots of people doing lots of talking.
Let′ s say you′ re at a party. Now it′ s time to use small talk as a way of making others feel more comfortable around you, so don′ t look silly standing by the food table alone all night.
According to the author, small talk is often used _____________.A.to invade other' s private affairs
B.to share a secret between intimate friends
C.to open and maintain channels of communication
D.to protect one' s own privacy答案：C解析：推断题。由文章第六段“You Can be wanting to connect with another person，and small talk is your introduction to more meaning conversation．”可知C项正确。 -
第19题：
根据下面资料，回答
"Hi there. How′ s it going?"
"Oh, fine. Fine. How about this weather, huh?"
"Well, I guess we can always use the rain."
What is that? This story? Oh, just a little look at small talk. You know, those seemingly meaningless conversations you have dozens of times a day. Maybe you′re waiting for the elevator, or in a line at the bank. It all seems pretty trivial. Idle chatter about traffic doesn′t do much more than fill the air with empty words that are quickly forgotten. But you should know that small talk actually has a big place in our lives.
Pat Oliver, assistant professor on arts, says that, "Left unchecked, small talk can be an invasion. It′ s so powerful. It does something to you." "Every morning after spending an hour and a half on the freeway I start the day with small talk with my secretary," Oliver says, "If I don′t make small connection with another person, I can′ t work."
What causes it? As a rule, you′re either trying to force something into your life, or you′re using conversation as an invisible force field to keep them out. You can be wanting to connect with another person, and small talk is your introduction to more meaning conversation. The way people use small talk is usually determined by where they happen to beat the time.
Take the elevator, for instance. Now there′ s prime territory. Nobody knows anyone and there′ s no reason to start a conversation, but invariably, someone does. "Making conversation in such peaceful social settings," according to Oliver, "can confirm your territory. It′s a way of feeling liked and accepted."
The topics of small talk don′t matter. In fact, you don′t want anything more taxing than the weather or the traffic. It′ s non-threatening talk in a threatening situation. However, the rules change quickly when you′re with lots of people doing lots of talking.
Let′ s say you′ re at a party. Now it′ s time to use small talk as a way of making others feel more comfortable around you, so don′ t look silly standing by the food table alone all night.
According to the author, topics of small talk may include comments on_____________.A.some political issues
B.one' s physical condition
C.other' s ways of dress
D.the traffic jam答案：D解析：推断题。由文章第八段“The topics of small talk don’t matter．In fact，you don’t want anything more taxing than the weather or the traffic．”可知，寒喧一般都是关于天气或者交通的轻松话题。故选D。 -
第20题：
Five ways to make conversation with anyone Conversations are links,which means when you have a conversation with a new person a link gets formed and every conversation you have after that moment will strengthen the link.You meet new people every day:the grocery worker,the cab driver,new people at work or the security guard at the door.Simply starting a conversation with them will form a link.Here are five simple ways that you can make the first move and start a conversation with strangers.41.____________Suppose you are in a room with someone you don’t know and something within you says“I want to talk with this person”—this is something the mostly happens with all of us.You wanted to say something—the first word—but it just won’t come out.It feels like it is stuck somewhere,I know the feeling and here is my advice just get it out.Just think:that is the worst that could happen?They won’t talk with you?Well,they are not talking with you now!I truly believe that once you get that first word out everything else will just flow.So keep it simple:“Hi”,“Hey”or“Hello”—do the best you can to gather all of the enthusiasm and energy you can,put on a big smile and say“Hi”。42.____________It’s a problem all of us face:you have limited time with the person that you want to talk with and you want to make this talk memorable.Honestly,if we got stuck in the rut of“hi”,“hello”,“how are you?”and“what’s going on?”you will fail to give the initial jolt to the conversation that’s can make it so memorable.So don’t be afraid to ask more personal questions.Trust me,you’ll be surprised to see how much people are willing to share if you just ask.43.____________When you meet a person for the first time,make an effort to find the things which you and that person have in common so that you can build the conversation from that point.When you start conversation from there and then move outwards,you’ll find all of a sudden that the conversation becomes a lot easier.44.____________Imagine you are pouring your heart out to someone and they are just busy on their phone,and if you ask for their attention you get the response“I can multitask”.So when someone tries to communicate with you,just be in that communication wholeheartedly.Make eye contact,you can feel the conversation.45.____________You all came into a conversation where you first met the person,but after some time you may have met again and have forgotten their name.Isn’t that awkward!So remember the little details of the people you met or you talked with;perhaps the places they have been to the place they want to go,the things they like,the thing the hate—whatever you talk about.When you remember such thing you can automatically become investor in their wellbeing.So the feel a responsibility to you to keep that relationship going.That’s it.Five amazing ways that you can make conversation with almost anyone.Every person is a really good book to read,or to have a conversation with!45选？A.Just say it
B.Be present
C.Pay a unique compliment
D.Name,places,things
E.Find the“me too”s
F.Skip the small talk
G.Ask for an opinion答案：E解析：第一句话就提到了忘记只见过一面的人的名字“name”。“So”后面又提到回忆地点“places”和好恶的事情“things”等细节，所以选E：Name，places，things -
第21题：
单选题CONVERSION 1 Questions1 to 5 are based on a conversation. At the end of the conversation you will be given 10 seconds to answer each of the following five questions. Now listen to the conversation. Gary prefers The Timesto The Heraldand City JournalbecauseAit devotes more pages to spots events.
Bit puts the horoscopes on the front page.
Cit has a much longer history.
Dit contains more pictures.
正确答案： A解析： 根据对话开头内容，可知男士认为泰晤士报(The Times)是城里最好的报纸。随后女士则说到，你喜欢泰晤士报(The Times)是因为它每天体育版都有20页吧！根据两人对话内容，可推断A项为正确答案。对话中女士关于报纸首版的星座内容表示不满，并非男士喜欢该报的原因，故排除B项。 -
第22题：
填空题You can begin to talk in free-association after you are sure that the conversation is public.____正确答案： G解析：
由题意可定位到G段。即当你确定这次对话是公开的时候，就可以畅所欲言了。故匹配段落为G段。 -
第23题：
单选题An assistant's help is needed _____.Athe moment you have entered the shop
Bbefore you start browsing
Conly when you have finished browsing
Dwhen you have made your choice
正确答案： C解析： -
第24题：
单选题How is the word “hibernate” formed, which means “to ignore friends when you start dating a new boyfriend or girlfriend”?Athrough blending
Bthrough compounding
Cthrough derivation
Dthrough conversion
正确答案： D解析：
hibernate本意为“冬眠”，“在开始恋爱时忽视朋友”是其衍生的意思，故选C。